Friday, July 29, 2011
Break up Do’s and Don'ts
Chillax! We are NOT breaking up. However, we have seen a few, long term relationships call it quits after spending years together.
I’m not going to place blame anywhere. Couples who have been together for a while, ahem…more than a few years, know that relationships are a constant flux of falling in and out of love with each other. The trick is to be patient enough to fall back in love with your honey, but sometimes it just doesn’t happen. Sometimes we grow so far apart that the best thing to do is to separate. It happens.
So, it brings me to this post because quite honestly someone has to be the voice of reason. I’ve had a few break-ups of my own and hind-sight, fore-sight, I can share this with you now.
1) Please, for the love of all you value and hold dear, avoid the stereotypical DYKE DRAMA! Chances are that whatever you think you’re going to accomplish, will probably backfire and either get you labeled a crazy ass bitch, get you arrested or get you involuntarily committed for 72 hours.
None of which is good. Trust me.
2) During the breakup, DON’T and I repeat, DON’T keep your soon to be ex’s shit, hostage! It’s not healthy for either one of you and let’s get honest, that’s just a fucked up thing to do. Revenge you say? Really? Nope. It’s BIG time manipulation.
Do yourself a favor and make a clean cut. You don’t need little reminders of how your life was with so-and-so, especially if you already have a new girl in your life. It’s over. Be over. Move on.
3) Don’t call your ex unless you are ready to lose every ounce of dignity you have left. Again, It’s over. Be over. Move on.
4) Feel your feelings. Embrace your sadness and welcome your grief. You’re going to hurt, after all, you did love that person at one time or currently still do love them. It’s okay to feel. It’s NOT okay to do crazy shit! Again, crazy shit falls under DYKE DRAMA that we are currently going to avoid, right?
5) Don’t think you can “be friends” right after a break up. It doesn’t typically work that way. Yes, it can happen but it takes time. Sometimes it takes years before two people can put their differences and their hurt aside and become friends in the first place.
6) During a breakup, you will both be a little nuts. That’s okay as long as you don’t go insane. Keep your friends in the loop. They will help you establish a good timeline and alibi if you need one.
Well, there you go. I got nothing else for you right now other than the fact that it’s been almost 7 days since I’ve had a cigarette. :0)